Some advice please: car-stuff noise at home?

[Gary71]

As above ^

Don’t get cameras, this is just another way to wind yourself up scrolling through footage.

As JB said life is too short, get those boulders back in place.

[KS]

Just shoot him. Job done.

[911hillclimber]

Need the pics because he will simply say he does not cross the boundry. But you are correct, I do not need to justify anything.

This morning the position of his daughter's car on their drive is such that the space between the car and the boundry is too narrow for his Renault van to pass through without coming over the boundry.
This is the typical situation that has prevailed for weeks. If his daughter parked the car more to one side then the van could pass.
I have a birds eye view of all this, will post a pic.

[911hillclimber]

A picture speaks a 1000 words.

This is the 'latout' of this morning, and typical of the parking every weekday. On a weekend the white car is parked tight to the boundary behind the van so the family can get the new SUV out with ease.
The grating is a soak-away and about 200MM inside my boundary line defined by concrete curbing laid down by the builders of the site in the 80's.

The position of the daughter's car could be 2 feet further over so allowing the van easy passage out, reversing from his drive missing the boundary completely, likewise the entry to park.

If this happened all would be well. You need to reverse that van out carefully to avoid the white car, so easier to cross my boundary instead.

The white car was parked in that position after my conversation which seems to me he has not worked out why there is little space, or the daughter cannot park (not long passed her test), or he could not care less and will continue to infringe over the boundary ignoring my request.

It is then boulder time placed at the start of the soak away grill.

He will then have to get the white car in a better position, drive totally onto my drive to go around the boulders (doubt he would do that) or move the boulders, park and put them back (he would do this until fed-up)

[hot66]

Honestly from the picture seems like nothing. Only issue would be if they block you in.

Life’s short and these things in the big picture are not worth stressing over

As far as I can make out , he’s not complained about you so at this stage it’s all in your head ?

[Nige]

You're analysing it too much, do any or all of the following:

A: Go ape, chin him and get an ASBO (he'll think you're mental and will never bother you again)
or
B: Put a large plant in pot or better still a pair stone lions (an Englishman's home is his castle, right!) on the corner of your drive. If he knocks them over or moves them, go ape, chin him and get an ASBO (he'll think you're mental and will never bother you again).

Sorted, you can thank me later.

[70sThrowback]

What damage has been done to your drive? If it were me i'd just let him drive across for ease unless its causing you issues. If it is, then I would go planters not boulders and do both sides of the drive so its less obvious its directed at the neighbour, you're simply adding kerb appeal.

On the noise from the trailer I agree with all the others, you're building this up in your mind to be something more than it is. I bet the neighbour just said that to you as a flippant respond because he wasn't expecting the drive conversation. In all of this I would avoid creating a potential neighbour conflict, that absolutely will give you sleepless nights.

I had a boundary dispute a few years ago, it lasted about 9 months cost a lot of money and did not good for my mental health. I would avoid going through that again if at all possible. Not saying that will happen here, but its amazing how things escalate.

[matteo68]

What damage has been done to your drive? If it were me i'd just let him drive across for ease unless its causing you issues. If it is, then I would go planters not boulders and do both sides of the drive so its less obvious its directed at the neighbour, you're simply adding kerb appeal.

On the noise from the trailer I agree with all the others, you're building this up in your mind to be something more than it is. I bet the neighbour just said that to you as a flippant respond because he wasn't expecting the drive conversation. In all of this I would avoid creating a potential neighbour conflict, that absolutely will give you sleepless nights.

I had a boundary dispute a few years ago, it lasted about 9 months cost a lot of money and did not good for my mental health. I would avoid going through that again if at all possible. Not saying that will happen here, but its amazing how things escalate.

Totally agree. I had a ridiculous boundary dispute in 2021/22 with my neighbour where there was no fence between the front gardens which caused me no end of sleepless nights and severe anxiety which ultimately led to me selling the house and moving away from the area. It’s really not worth tangling with neighbours over these things…

[Nige]

TBH, looking at the picture it looks at some point you and all your neighbours might have to clip each others driveway boundaries at some point.

I think you've turned into a grumpy old man. My Dad has turned already, he lives next door to a secondary school, he's been there for over 30 years, now all of sudden the school drop and collection times have become a major issue for him. People parking opposite his drive or heaven forbid across his drive for a few seconds. He actually stands there at his window shaking his fist at them, once he's worked himself up enough he then decides to go and get a newspaper for some reason at 3:15, just so he can have a rant, I don't think he even reads them.

Its never ever been a problem, but now all of sudden he's made it a problem.

[Sam]

Tough love from Nige, but it’s my view too.

Is it really a problem his wheels touching your drive? Is it really damaging it?

Knock on his door, say sorry you overreacted the other day make friends, diffuse the tension, watch your anxiety instantly subside.

[sladey]

Good advice from Sam

[Nige]

Knock on his door, say sorry you overreacted the other day make friends, diffuse the tension, watch your anxiety instantly subside.

That might actually might work!

You showing a greater understanding, maturity and wisdom far beyond that of your neighbour, elevating yourself to Mr Miyagi levels of sageness. As such he will feel guilty that his actions caused you bother and thus he will alter his careless ways, bowing down to your greatness and never drive across your driveway again. Problem solved

Kinda of a double bluff, otherwise chin him.

[911hillclimber]

Ok, so he wins?
I allow him to do what he wants and he walks away laughing at a weak minded old man.
As the drive slowly dips (it is already, the start of my issue) I will pay some contractor to level things up and he continues to drive over it sniggering, and I'll pay again. until I die or even move to a downsized property.

I also must then re-position my cars to allow him open access to this area, and then more.
This will be a case of give an inch, take a mile.

A while ago he claimed part of my lawned frontage was his until his father said it was not.

Anyway, case closed.

Thank you for your comments all.

[Nine One One]

You are in no different position than thousands of others on developments with shared access or narrow estate roads.
Remember these houses were built in the 70’s and 80’s when houses were a bit more affordable, mortgages a bit more affordable or easy to get. The cul de sac design of your estate makes it look nice, especially when new.

You then have families move in, and 18 years later the children have grown up, and need transport. Most cannot afford a house of their own, so stay with parents indefinitely, or rent at stupid rates because they cannot get a mortgage.

Most houses were designed with one car families in mind back then, two cars if you were really well off.

Times have changed. Wife has a car, children have cars, and if they cannot park on the driveway, they park on the road. Some estates near us are impassible due to parked cars either side of the road, and you have to wait an age to get past, or move forwards. New estates have hardly any driveway space, as that takes up valuable building space for another 20 odd houses at inflated prices.

Not sure how old your neighbour actually is, but sooner or later he will retire and the works van will disappear.

Yes he may drive a very short distance over the curtilage area of your drive, but is it that much of an issue? The ACO drain, is cheap aluminium/galvanised steel plates. I had one outside my garage and it collapsed after a year through very little use of the 911 coming in and out of the garage. They have been superseded now by resin channels and tops.

You have now got this in your mind set, just drop it, it is not worth the stress. The neighbour is not causing any other issues, and was not an issue before his daughter got a car..........she may move out sooner or later.

We have people who park outside our house, and yes it pisses me off, but I do not own the road, and people visiting others need somewhere to park, because they can not park on whoever they are visiting driveway.

Live and let live, other people have real shits living next door to them, screaming kids in the garden, or dogs barking all the time. You have someone who momentarily drives about 12 inches over part of your concrete driveway to get to theirs...............just leave things as they are, it is not worth the hassle one bit.

[911hillclimber]

Much of that is true.
He is 65 and self employed.
What irritates is he can simply use his own drive and not come across but his daughter seems to always park in the middle of his drive so forcing him to use mine to get access.

All three of them think this is ok,make do effort to do things right and respect others. Seems the way of the world.
He has complained to his next doors twice about then infringing on his drive!

I too get this from them when once they parked on the drive fully and said if i wanted their car moving for me to come over and ask them to move it.
Why would you do that? They are doctors too.
My side lawn gets a home cleaning pair park their range rover on the lawn and not on their customer's drive. Why think that is ok? Gave them a few comments on that and it stopped.

All but one house in the cul de sac has off road parking for 4 cars to each house, nobody regularly parks on the road, but, of course the only road side parking is along side my house!

Some simply do not respect others. I seem to get surrounded by a few..

Continuing this thread (which was about noise) just rattles me so I'm stopping posts now.
As said above, no complaints made (to my knowledge) and it probably was a response to hit back to my request to respect boundaries.