After advice from fellow DDKers, I located the two relays behind the dash - NLA. I was tempted by the NOS ones on US Ebay, but I am too tight
Then out of the blue some secondhand ones appeared on Satan's Marketplace. I have even tracked down a wiring diagram -SL35 that shows the two relays. Seems like both are required to control intermittent.
You get two fast wipes, followed by a slow park, then 3 or 4 seconds later same again. Wow..... but I don't think its worth posting a video on Youtube
So heated rear window - tick, blower motor - tick, intermittent wipe - tick, just that rear wiper to conquer now.

